A Safe Space
It is important to know Doula Diary is a safe and non judgemental space!
This comes from me, being a human being and learning everyday about challenges we all face. This is a very open, wearing my heart on my sleeve kind of post. One I feel some of you will relate to and understand, and why I want to share.
I love my life, everything I have dreamed of has come true…is true. I’m living my dream. It’s not perfect but it’s what makes me happy. It’s a balancing act to juggle happiness, finance, home, work, family, life and as I grow and learn more about myself I understand more.
I have a roof over my head, a healthy body (granted I could do with more sleep and my body aches from time to time) a healthy family, supportive friends, an understanding husband, 2 wonderful dogs and the best clients who really make my work fulfilling.
So when it comes to that time of the month where as a women I bleed. Things get a little foggy. I get irritable, lack motivation and need space and time away from my family. The balancing act becomes overwhelming.
Did you know this is perfectly normal and valid for so many. Now my husband always worries as I naturally become distant. I’m reserving my energy. It’s hard work raising a spirited toddler who’s navigating her own emotions. To support my daughter with this it all starts and ends with me. Now I find it so so difficult to maintain this patience at this time of the month. I have to breathe and collect myself. Easier to do if I’ve had some headspace and filled my cup.
My husband asked me what he can do to help as he isn’t ‘Intuitive’ when it comes to stuff like this. I could have cried. I try to explain that it’s not him , our daughter or our life together. It’s my hormones, it’s my emotions, it’s who I am and always have been. Once upon a time it would have manifested so differently but now I have people who depend on me. But I still need space, and that is what he can do to help. Take our daughter and give me some space.
I may seem like a little bit of an ‘expert’ around birth. I’m not, I’m always learning, same with parenting. It’s a learning journey which we do better when we do it together and share. We have highs, we have lows.
Each Parent, baby and child is different and so is the journey. It will never be the same. So I want you to know that my inbox is always open if you need to splurge into a message how you are feeling. Do not worry about any typos, auto corrections (these can be quite funny and humour is powerful) or grammar. I don’t, it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Pop me a little heart in the comments if you ever feel the same, or have anything to add. I would like to show my husband it’s not just me. I appreciate those of you who are pregnant won’t have a cycle right now but that feeling of being overwhelmed may still speak to you.
Lots of love
Leanne x
